One of the most important roles coaches play in preparing players for competition and life is to give them a chance to develop good character.
For Character Coaches
We expect a game plan for coaching the X’s and O’s of our sport. What isn’t always clear is how to coach character. Over time we have seen an ever-growing gap develop between coaching the fundamental aspects of a specific sport and the development of quality character. Character Coaches exist to fill this crucial gap in developing the complete athlete.
Want to learn more? Fill out our Character Coaching Interest Form!
View/Download our "Character Coaching Essentials" Packet
Once you fill this out, an FCA staff member will reach out to learn more about your interest and share details about this ministry opportunity.
This packet provides more information about this role, expectations, best practices, and basic guidelines that every Character Coach needs to know.
CHARACTER COACH VS. CHAPLAIN
When discussing the role of a Character Coach it is important to know the difference between a Character Coach and a Chaplain. Both roles are critically important but distinctively different. Which role you play with a team is determined by the audience.
CHARACTER COACH | CHAPLAIN |
---|---|
Values based | Faith based |
The goal is to teach character/leadership qualities | The goal is to provide spiritual guidance and direction |
Coaches can make it manditory | Coaches must make it optional |
Model + inform | Model + inform + convert |
Who are Character Coaches?
A wide variety of people can serve the people of sport as Character Coaches. One need not be a sport ministry professional to faithfully serve and to significantly impact the lives of coaches and athletes. Among those who could serve as in these roles are:
- Parents of players in youth sports (school based teams or club sports).
- Coaches of youth sports teams, school based teams or coaches at higher levels of sport.
- Community leaders with an interest in developing character.
- Athletic trainers or other support personnel with sports teams.
- Pastors or other ministry professionals.
- Church members who desire to make an impact by serving others.
What does it take to be a Character Coach?
FCA wants to provide teams with the best-trained, most effective Character Coaches that they can, so we have created a process:
- Completion of the on-line application process called the Ministry Leader Application.
- Initiation of a relationship with an FCA staff member in your area for further training, encouragement, facilitation and accountability.
- Communication with the FCA staff prior to the season for planning, prayer, resources, etc
- Communication with the FCA staff during the season for encouragement, problem solving and further direction.
- Communication at the end of the season for evaluation, reporting of results, etc.
Where do I start?
As you get started recruiting, training and empowering Character Coaches in your area, it is critically important to follow some FCA guidelines to protect everyone involved.
Keep in mind the differences between a Character Coach and a Team Chaplain. The Character Coach initiative is designed to help get a ‘foot in the door’ with School Administrators, Coaches and athletes by providing an on-going presence with a particular team while passing along strong, character building lessons that are non-religious.
Obviously, our hope and prayer is that these Character Coaches begin to lay a foundation of trust that will eventually open doors for other opportunities such as evangelism and discipleship
CHARACTER COACH ESSENTIALS
CHARACTER COACH GUIDELINES
Keys to Being an Effective Character Coach:
There may be no more costly nor rewarding role in ministry through sport that that of the Character Coach. The keys to effectiveness in such a role are simple, but most important. Simply said, there are a few keys to ministry with people of sport and they are outlined briefly below. Chief among those keys is to take a relational approach rather than a programmatic approach. Focus on the people more than the methods or strategies. The goal is not just to develop programs or to hold meetings; rather it is to relate to the people of sport closely enough to sense the needs of their hearts and to minister to them accordingly.
1) Focus on the people of sport. Win their trust through serving them.
a. Focus on the coaches and players, not the fans, the media or others. Coaches are key. Invest in their lives and build trust with them. Respond to the athletes who show interest. Follow up with those who ask questions or indicate a desire for spiritual things.
b. Know their names, positions, uniform numbers and all you can about their backgrounds. Show a personal interest in them and they'll be more open to you.
c. Ask good questions about the sport, their roles, their expectations and their goals.
d. Be available to them, even when it's terribly inconvenient. The point of crisis or the inconvenient phone call is often the situation that either wins or loses you their trust and confidence.
2) Watch your attitude and don't act like a fan.
a. Respect and value the culture of sport. Study it; learn its history and language. Ask good questions of the coaches and players.
b. Look for opportunities to serve the team and don't seek privileges. If they want to outfit you with team gear, they'll ask for your size. Don't seek such privileges. An arrogant, presumptuous attitude will quickly invalidate your ministry.
c. Encourage always and don't become critical. If they want your opinion, they'll ask for it. Maintain a supportive attitude and you'll be a highly valued person. If you are constantly critical or finding fault, you'll soon be marginalized or ignored.
d. Don't talk about religion. Talk about faith in the context of the sport. Help them see what genuine faith is through their sport experience.
3) Be in the right place at the right time.
a. Be at practice sessions. Lots of people attend the games, very few attend practices. The coaches and athletes know that only those most highly committed to the team are at practice. If you're there, their respect for you will grow quickly.
b. Be there when they lose. Everyone seems to hang around to congratulate the team when they've won a big game. You must be the one to stay late, to console, to encourage and to commiserate with them when they've lost the big game. This builds trust and lets you see their grieving hearts.
c. Be available in times of crisis. The trips to the training room or the emergency room with an injured player build trust and deepen relationships like nothing else. The private meeting with a coach in his office concerning a troubled player is a powerful ministry opportunity. The lunch meeting with an athlete or coach who's looking for counsel as he or she is making a big decision is a life-changing moment. If you're available, you have a ministry. If you're not, you don't.
4. Strategies and methods are secondary to the relational emphasis.
a. If you will focus on the relationship building tips listed above, the appropriate strategies and methods will be much more easily seen and implemented.
b. Always ask permission before beginning a ministry initiative. Make a proposal to the head coach for the Bible study, discussion, chapel, event, etc. Doing so honors his position and may keep you from violating a team or athletic association rule. It also further builds his or her trust of you and your ministry.
c. Be sure to adapt ministry methods and tools to the sport's culture. Don't simply drag the people of sport into church culture and expect it to be a good fit. Strive to help those whom you serve to fully integrate their lives in sport with their lives in Christ Jesus.
To effectively serve the people of sport as their Character Coach; focus on the people and win their trust through serving them; watch your attitude; be in the right place at the right time; and keep strategies and methods secondary to the relational emphasis.
Guidelines for the Character Coach Message:
• Be Brief.
- Stay under 7 minutes!
- Time yourself as you prepare. Do not abuse the Coach’s wishes…this is the quickest way to lose respect and trust.
• Be Personal.
- Sharing a personal story or experience makes a great impact and it will help you connect with the audience.
• Be Simple.
- Do not try to cover too much information. Be simple and focused. Give them something they can remember and repeat.
• Be Motivational.
- Remember that these athletes are about to go into (or have just finished) intense competition. Always try to end your message with a charge for them to take action! What is it that you want them to do as a result of what they have just heard?